Baby’s toilet training is an emotive subject. It is enshrouded with social feeling, status, and pride. As one expert on baby care recently wrote: “To some others their baby’s toilet control ability represents a desirable status symbol, and these mothers will wish to start training early.”
However, it is pointless trying to expect the impossible. This is only one aspect of total infant training. It is foolish to expect remarkable achievements when one will readily accept the fact it will take months years for other facets of baby’s upbringing to develop.
The majority of infants do not achieve the ability to control their bowels and bladders until well into the second year. In many cases, it is much nearer the third year.
Mothers will hotly dispute this. However, for those claiming early success in their “potty” experiments, the chances are more likely to be that the mother has been trained rather than baby.
Baby’s system has several well-defined reflexes. One of these is the bowel reflex, soon after food enters the stomach, many babies have the desire to have a bowel movement.
If the mother has become accustomed to giving baby the potty at this time, she will mistakenly believe she has trained him.
Be contented to take time, have patience, and do not expect miracles in the training program. Gentle encouragement will give great rewards; early premature expectations can only produce hazards later.